Great salesman often use a well known objection innoculation process: “If I satisfied all of your wishes for this product and took care of these objections, are you ready to buy now?” The question elicits further objections, that are then incorporated back into the question that is repeated. Until a whole-body-yes.

We can context-transfer this process to healing & coaching: “If I take care of this block, is there anything else that prevents you from having what you want?” Keep eliciting blocks to find the critical few that are the root cause of the problem. Then go for it, forget the branches.

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The difference between excellent and ok, is the difference between, in athletic terms, the 1st place and the 4th. It pays a hundred fold to mentor with the best Teachers you can find.

That isn’t easy. There is so much mediocre noise in the self-help field, that identifying a Great Trainer and Coach in the ocean of marketing hype is a monumental task. Here is what I require of someone I will allow to mentor me:

1. She is a smooth egoless mirror in which I can see my own reflection(s).
2. He guides (and shoves if necessary) me to find my own vision of bliss.
3. She shows me how to uncover the resources I already embody to start following my bliss.

Want to make your life and this world a better place?

Then master the art of giving feedback. Everyone will love you for it. And you will be helping them to grow, because they will be able to accept your ”criticism”.

To make this easier, I created a Feedback Manifesto.

Print it out and post it in your office, - give it to your employees, your colleagues. Pin it to a wall at home, - give it to your kids, your parents, your friends. Keep it right in front of your eyes until it penetrates your mind and flows freely in your blood.

The world and your life will be a much better place for it.

I want to share a process I discovered recently while coaching a client (indeed, it is always the teacher who learns more than the student). It worked really well because it re-aligns your daily self-expression with your Being (that’s who you really are once all the crap drops away). A problem cannot remain a problem when you become someone who cannot possibly have that kind of problem, isn’t that so?

It starts with a picture your Being that you wish you could one day allow yourself to become. *take a few minutes to make it Technicolor now*. Get your list of oh-so-big problems out. Randomly pick the worst one, and see how would your Being have handled this problem? (I do hope you have got a vision of Being big enough to handle all problems in just a right way. If not, better start all over again). Now ask your Being: “What changes have I had to make in my mind and body to have handled this problem?” *wait for an answer*. Solve another problem.

P.S. Don’t confuse this process with timeline work, - you can do damage this way; it’s at the opposite end of the spectrum.

Body delights in a beautiful lover, Spirit delights in an ugly lover.

Let’s talk for a moment about how manifestation happens. There are some people who believe that manifestation is the immediate gratification of their desires: I want an apple, and it magically appears in my hand.

I don’t think it’s like that at all. I believe manifestation is a lot like reality shifting as described by Roger Zelazny in Chronicles of Amber:

If you think about a space of realities, then two realities are next to each other if they are very similar, e.g. a white wall in one appears as a touch of blue in another. But they are far apart if they are very different, e.g. a white wall in one and no wall in another.

Manifestation then is simply an ability to re-organize your experience in a way that moves you closer to the reality you want to be in, one small step at a time. But the path you take makes a difference:

Materializing an apple one atom at a time is stupid. But walking to an apple tree to pluck an apple from a branch is smart.

Three things make a difference:

1. How flexible you are in re-organizing your experience determines how many paths are open for you to get to where you’re going. It’s all about freedom.
2. How aware you are of the field of possibilities determines how many choices you see. This is THE key. Every tiny event CAN be used to move you towards wherever you’re going. A leaking faucet is an invitation to become more ecological and stop wasting water. A beautiful woman in a seat next to you is an invitation to learn confidence. A furious teenager screaming at you is an invitation to practice compassion. Life hands you an invitation to become alife every moment; how many do you accept?
3. How well you see where you are going determines how much random wandering will fall on your shoulders.